Saturday, November 05, 2005

my view on long distance relationships.

this post was bound to happen, one way or another. sure, it's a couple of months late... talk about delayed reaction. but i just have to say this, not for me, but for others who may be in the same situation.

grrrrr. why is it that when 2 people separate, sympathy more often than not lies with the ones left behind? don't take me wrong... no offense to the ones left behind because i'm sure it can be hard, missing someone, going to all the places you used to go to, surrounded by so many memories, people, places and things that make you miss the person who left you even more. and then there's the one leaving, the one who'll get to experience new and exciting things, who'll get to go places, meet people, the one who'll have an adventure.

but the thing is, it's not automatically like that.

you don't just go to a place and immediately have a new and exciting life. you go to a new place with almost nothing... just memories of the people you left behind. and so you have to adjust, adjust to the fact that you no longer have the luxury of friends you can be with if you're feeling down, adjust to the fact that you're basically on your own... and then after a while when you DO finally get settled in, it's still not the same. imagine... you left your whole life. not just friends and family, but the familiarity, the comfort, the security, stability and regularity of your life back home. sure, you'll get some of it back after staying in a certain place for a while, but still. nothing is the same as being back home, surrounded by... everything. by everything near and dear to your heart.

i'm not saying things are harder on the one leaving... it's just that things are just as hard... and the sad thing is, you don't have your friends around to cheer you up.

notice. why is it that the one who left is more often than not the one who always calls? okay, maybe it's KINDA cheaper to call back home especially if you're earning in dollars. but there's another reason, and it's called homesickness. while the ones left behind are missing just that one person, the one who left is missing everyone else.

how frustrating. i can't seem to aticulate my thoughts as well through this laptop and i sound just a tad bit bitter. hahaha i'm not. i just felt like explaining the other side to long distance relationships because few seem to understand it.

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watch out for my entry next week. i have very exciting news. :) well, for me anyways. cross your fingers!!! ;p

eL's thoughts @ 12:32 AM
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